Barbara and Sam Hayes began envisioning life in a continuing care retirement community while still in their 50s. But not everyone in their family was as open to the idea. At age 93 and widowed for 15 years, Barbara’s mother, Emma Lloyd, was still managing independently in her Westerly, Rhode Island home. But with two of Barbara’s siblings living out of state, support for Mrs. Lloyd fell largely to Barbara and Sam. The 1.5-hour drive from their home in Westwood, Massachusetts, to her home in Westerly didn’t make life any easier.
On the day Barbara planned to talk to her mother about moving closer to Westwood, Mrs. Lloyd revealed her own plans for a dining room makeover. Surprised but undaunted, Barbara broached the idea of her mother relocating to Westwood. While hesitant at first, the realization that her independence wouldn’t diminish and that she’d be supported by a more connected family life ultimately eased Mrs. Lloyd’s concerns.
After touring several communities, Mrs. Lloyd decided Fox Hill Village was the best fit. She quickly created a whole new life, enjoying bridge games and elegant dinners with new friends who became a supportive network. She was well-known for making bran muffins for new residents, and thrived at Fox Hill with a sense of engagement and connection, ultimately reaching the age of 105.
Having seen Mrs. Lloyd flourish at Fox Hill, Barbara and Sam decided to follow her lead years before they actually moved in. They had seen firsthand the fruitful and engaged life Barbara’s mother had and wanted the same for their later years. “The people here are fascinating, interesting and gracious — both residents and staff,” says Barbara. “I feel a special kinship with the other second-generation residents who are here now. That’s a unique experience.”
Like her mother before her, Barbara is actively involved in the community as part of the Welcome Committee and the Better Hearing @ Fox Hill Committee. That’s important for this couple, who have a deep affection and connection to music. Sam plays the cello and pipe organ, while Barbara has performed for residents on the community’s Steinway concert grand piano. The couple has also sponsored chamber music students from Boston’s New England Conservatory to perform at Fox Hill Village.
Barbara’s belief in music as a unifying force mirrors the sense of community she and Sam have found at Fox Hill Village, just like Barbara’s mother before her.